“Support” may be an unlikely word to find at the end of the above phrase, but its importance was underscored while I was sitting in the ICU of a Southern California hospital, where my husband underwent emergency surgery. Surrounded by loving family and friends makes it possible for me to be “tough” in this difficult situation, providing the most soothing balm imaginable.

Why consider dealing with difficult situations by your lonesome?  Most family and friends are more than willing and sincere in offering their love, support, and a variety of resources to help get you through troubles and trauma:

• One step at a time – critical situations are inherently overwhelming, so focus on the smaller picture of what needs to be done (the “big” things can usually wait a bit), and take advantage of help that’s offered.
• Reality based optimism – dwelling on every negative aspect of the circumstance isn’t helpful, so aim to strike a balance between being hopeful while remaining clear-sighted about the realities presented.
• Help from all quarters – peripheral assistance, in whatever form, can be uplifting and definitely beneficial; in my case, the insurance companies (believe it or not),  were really efficient and understanding, which quickly eliminated a great deal of anxiety.
• Kindness of kids – what could be more comforting than to have children share and offer solace during trying times?  Allow youngsters to participate and offer their love and help in ways that let them know how important they are to the well-being of family, friends, or the community.
• Health is a gift that keeps on giving – cherish and guard it and don’t put off all the things (nutrition, exercise, sleep, less stress), that help maintain a healthy lifestyle.
• Martyrs need not apply – although you may have been able to successfully handle past tough times on your own, it does get to harder to do so you get older; time to make sure you have a support system in place and are aware of the different avenues available for all types of assistance.

And remember, taking action is the catalyst for change!